Relationship fears

Relationship fears are different than other types of fear in that the fear is not of immediate physical harm, but emotional harm.
The two main types of relationship fears are 1) the fear of being abandoned and, 2) the fear of being smothered. I look at myself and I don't have any fear of being abandoned because I won't let anyone get close enough to me because of my fear of being smothered.
I don't want to give up the freedom that comes from being able to do what I want whenever I want. In the past, I have had people who tried to smother me and I quickly got out of the relationship. The question is whether or not I'll find that special someone who will support me emotionally and yet let me be my own person.