What is the real power of questions?

Without even thinking about it, I have drawn you into my space. Questions have incredible power to control. That's why attorneys use them so masterfully. A successful attorney is like a magician that uses sleight of hand to make the jury believe that they saw something they didn't see. I learned as a young boy that the person asking the questions is in control. That's why the wife will ask, "Where have you been?" A common defense is to deflect attention by the husband asking her, "Why do you want to know?!" Questions are incredibly powerful tools. Use them to craft your future.

Life is a binary choice test.

The pretense of binary choice means that there is a right or wrong answer. True or False. Yes or No. Only one of them is right. The best example of this phenomenon is pregnancy. Either the woman is or isn't pregnant. She isn't kinda pregnant. Salvation is a binary choice as well. We can choose it or not. Yes or No. Right or Wrong. After taking a close look at my life, I choose God.Like most well planned tests it is relatively easy in retrospect. This means after the questions. Wisdom is when you know the answer and do it before the question.

The art of conversation

Late Night Show Hosts begin the show with a monologue. Most of us never really think about it. Johnny Carson, Jimmy Fallon, Stephen Colbert, and Seth Meyers all do it. But what is a monologue and how does it differ from a dialogue or conversation? Many of us may be in a group talking to the others, but what we're really having are several competing monologues at once! One person speaks and the others nod their heads in false agreement waiting for the person to pause so they can interject their thought. This continues for several minutes until one of the people glances at their wristwatch and excuses themselves. Is this rhetorical dance true conversation? True conversation involves two or more sharing thoughts and ideas. I learned the art of conversation several years ago during marriage counseling. The counseling didn't work, not because the principle was faulty, but because the parties were tainted. What is real conversation? Conversation is all about taking turns speaking. You say something. The other person summarizes what you said. You agree or disagree. Then they make a statement or ask a question. It sounds monotonous, but it's beautiful! Like a dance. Let your partner lead sometime.

Stay Focused!

One of my greatest challenges is to "keep the main thing the main thing" as my friend Greg Gray says. By nature I like to have several projects going on at once. My friend suggested that I do one thing. Finish that, and move on to the next thing. Makes sense, right? Well, easier said than done! If I didn't know better I'd say that I have ADD...I don't, right?? The primary thing is to prioritize and stay focused!